Saturday, January 4, 2020

Thursday 18.04.19


neighbourhood free limes sign

Ben awakes and he calls the smoke alarm the ghost alarm and said it creeped him out a little but I feel like it's a good portal and I want Dad to make contact with me.


Ben rang to book me an appointment because I was worried the flu that I had given Dad on the 6th (the last walk we did together) may have contributed to his death. Last night I was worried I would die in my sleep.


My bulk billed doctor was all booked (being the day before the easter long weekend) and so they told us their other clinic had availability. A nurse saw me first to get my vitals for the doctor. I told her straight away my Dad had just died and she was super comforting, offered me a tissue box and told me her history of working in palliative care. She reassured me straight away that the flu didn't contribute to Dad's death and she said she would talk to the doctor before I saw him so I wouldn't have to repeat my story. The doctor gave me a script for antibiotics but told me I was near the end of my flu and that right now I didn't need them. He said my body will probably take longer to process the flu because of my trauma. He was very kind.


We went to the library and I got out two books on grief


Ben had gone past our neighbour with a free lime sign and I told him how Dad had dropped limes off on Saturday. Ben and I go for a swim. I go to the same swimming spot every week and have never seen the amazing array of mushrooms. On my last walk with Dad on the 6th it was a walk where we got to spot an amazing amount of mushrooms. Lydia took a photo of Dad when we had reached the falls and he looked so happy, he was so happy.

forest mushrooms

mushroom photo

black and white photos of mushrooms

red mushroom in forest

red mushroom

Back at home I bought in my washing and Dad was telling me it's good to do regular tasks.

5:33 Mum rang to say the coroner's report had arrived. It wasn't his latest health attempts that had pushed him too far, it wasn't the flu. It was calloused arteries and a history of heart disease in his family. His heart had filled with blood and he most likely went into a coma before his heart gave out.


/I'll be sharing a series of diary entries two weeks around my Dad's death

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